I often wonder how many great loves are you allowed in one lifetime? One amazing love that takes your breath away, makes you tingle up through your toes all the way through your chest, and makes you feel as though you may die without that person. Two loves, one you have that can be characterized as puppy love but you feel like it is “true love” and then the “real love” is later on when you find out who you are and what you want in life. Maybe we have many loves and the number is never-ending? Lovers refer to their partner as their “soul mate.” What does that mean exactly? What constitutes the title of a soul mate? Is there and application process, checklist, a number of qualities that the other person must do or say to accomplish this outstanding title?
I ponder these questions after yet another scandal in the news…Tiger Woods and his affairs… My good friend Steven writing an intriguing book about relationships and Men and their insecurities. The divorce rate yet still ever so high and the media, TV, movies, not really looking into what makes us human. We all have a sense of oneself. The need to be with another person, to be needed, to be special. What is it that makes all of those qualities…Love? Great love, outstanding, truthful, caring and unbreakable….
When I look at relationships that I feel are good examples I always look back on my Aunt Jackie and Uncle Johnny. They were always so considerate of each other. If he went to the kitchen to get something, he always asked if she needed something and vs versa. If she needed something done around the house, he would surprise her with it being finished. He would buy her outfits that he knew she would love. She would do things for him that would make him smile and laugh. They would still hold hands when they were out in public together. If he got home first he would do the cooking. They would lie on the couch and read next to each other. They were High School sweethearts and loved everyday that they were together. I longed to be near them. I remember saving money in high school just so that I could go out to California and spend time with them and my cousin.
My Uncle passed away about 7 years ago and my Aunt lost the first love of her life…it was one of the hardest things I ever had to witness. I didn’t know how she would recover or if she would ever find love again. Afterall…how many do we get in our lifetime? She did find love again and has been happy for the last 3 years….
Is it luck in love? It could be the people who are lucky to find that one love and hold on to them when they know it’s real. Know how to take care of it, nurture it, watch it grow. Or it could be different for each individual. Some may feel they get one great love and that’s it. Once it is over…it’s over. Others get two…the practice and then the real long-lasting love. Karma could also play a large roll in what becomes of love. You get out of your relationships what you put into them….
